As you go through your daily life on this daily day, ask yourself this one question:
Am I putting the greatest importance on the things that I and I alone can do?
Many of the things we think are very important are things that other people can do in our place. Our jobs, for instance.
A job is important for our comfort/nourishment/well-being, but it should never define us. You can always get another one. Or die. And when you die or move on, someone will take over your job for you. Or maybe a robot or computer program will do it for you. Thus, in the grand scheme, it’s not that important.
No one else is going to sleep for you.
No one else is going to exercise for you.
No one else is going to eat well for you.
No one else is going to raise your kids the way you want them raised.
No one else is going to have an orgasm for you.
These things can’t be outsourced. It’s just a sampling. There are many others.
When I’ve been in management at large companies questions have always come up on employee satisfaction surveys about “work-life balance”. I never quite knew how to answer them. To me, work was either part of life or it was a dreary burdensome mess. The question always sounded like “Are you happy about how much we are keeping you from things that actually matter to you in life?”. I would laugh. Whatever they meant, it couldn’t be that.
But no, I found out that was what they meant.
That’s what’s meant by work/life balance.
So, do what you need to do to make a living. Take joys and satisfactions where you can. But try to always remember to neither over-emphasize nor over-value the things you do that other people could do in your place.
And definitely don’t use those things to define yourself.
Be wonderful today!